February 2009
You’re conscientious.
When you listen to a wounded friend, you listen hard. When you’re making something special, you put your unique brand of concentration into it. And when there’s a strict budget to stick to, you better believe you’re the one consuming off brand groceries like Diet Dr. Thunder and trolling craigslist for non-escort, cash paying gigs. When it’s crucial, you’re painstaking in your commitment.
Today...
You've earned some guilt-free self-indulgence.
Often, you’re go go going for weeks at a time. You have no chance to think about your body and what it needs because you’re consumed with the work of making people proud and providing hope and stability for yourself and your loved ones. Other times, you just need a goddamn break. As long as you’re fulfilling your responsibilities (learning, conserving resources, maintaining...
You're new here.
Today is a whole new ballgame in which nobody’s a ringer. None of us have ever seen today before so we’re all new at this. There’s no knowing for certain what brilliant adventure might be around the proverbial corner. You’re as prepared for today as you’re gonna get… we all are.
Today remind yourself: I’m new here.
“I don’t like dating. I like attention and free food.”
– kissandtell
You have confidently creative qualities.
You’re really smart. You’ve got good ideas and you’re brave enough to implement them. Those qualities, working in unison, allow you to create some wonderful stuff! Be confident in your abilities, because you’ve got a gift, good lookin’.
Today remind yourself: I have confidently creative qualities.
Your comfort is paramount. Peace!
In social situations where you’re being rubbed the wrong way, it is fine to leave with no excuse. Life is too short to put up with assholes in your free time. Feel offended? Get your coat. If the discussion turns sexist, racist, or otherwise disgusting, you must remove yourself. There will be no polite nodding coming from your direction, there will only be your overturned chair and your speedy...
Way to go, Past You!
Isn’t it great when you get back home after a trip out of town to find your bed made and the dishes done. Past You did Present You a favor! Think about all the preparation you’ve done to bring yourself to this point. You did your homework and you took chances and it paid off. You’ve set yourself up quite well- kudos! Is there something you can do in this moment that will help you...
Say when.
When you want something, it’s a delicate balance between showing persistent interest and being pushy/desperate/scary. As a dedicated balls-to-the-wall goer, I resent that fine line and, frankly, I think it’s a pretty shitty one to have to walk. But walk it, we must. You’re a smart (adorable!) person, you can read the given situation and decide how much pressure to apply. If your instincts have...
You free yourself from the grudges that weigh you...
So, this morning, I went to see Madea Goes to Jail and now all I can think about is forgiveness. How when you forgive someone, it sets you free. The person you forgive never has to know a thing about it. You forgive them for yourself, so that you can move on to pursue less angry, more productive endeavors. Damn, Tyler Perry is smart. Today I hope that you feel light and carefree. I hope that love...
You're rich!
Maybe you’re not loaded compared to Oprah, but in a lot of ways you’re rich! You’re rich in knowledge, positive energy, the admiration of others… and apparently you have enough dough to check the internets. It feels good to say and even better to believe. When you’re not fighting against funds but rather going with the (cash) flow, it’s easier to be happily parsimonious. You can save your pennies...
You are so much more!
People who are just getting go know you may not realize what an incredibly complex person you are. All your qualities make you who you are, so when someone limits you by labeling you “perky” or “artsy” or “crazy” or whatever, they are showing their own shortsightedness. Bad example: Let’s say somebody falls in love with you while you’re playing the trumpet. Then you put down the trumpet to go have...
At the moment, there's no drama.
Feeling restless? I’m with ya. There are those days when everybody is rubbing you the wrong way and everything is pissing you off and you just wish you were someplace else. Worst. Well, fuck it, what can we do but let it go? Those annoying things are in the past, the recent past, but the past nonetheless. Right now, you are deeply loved. You’re an attractive person. You’re in a...
You elevate the level of discourse.
And another thing that’s great about you is your ability to contribute to the conversation. You know stuff, fascinating stuff, and it’s fun to hear you give the scoop. Your areas of expertise overlap with and expand on the subject at hand in a breezy, exciting way. It’s charming.
Today remind yourself: I elevate the level of discourse.
Extinguish your pants.
Lying is bad, I’ll give ya that. But little lies are pointless and can create a huge hassle. Say someone asks you, “have you seen Harold and Maude,” and you lie and say yeah, then they follow up with, “what was the uncle missing?” then you’re fucking trapped. Why are we liars? To avoid imagined judgment? Nobody who counts is going to give a shit if you’ve...
Let it marinate.
Shit balls. It is literally the eleventh hour and the deadline is fast approaching. Some days, it comes easy. Other days, it doesn’t come at all. I applaud your persistence, even in the bleakest moments and there is no doubt in my mind that you’re going to make it just under the wire. The ideas will come… or, as a last resort, you can use the absence of ideas as an idea. Mental block = building...
You’ll get there.
You know where you want to be. You know what you’re working towards. Maybe you’re in the brainstorming phase right now. Get your grocery list together because soon enough it’s gonna be time to shop shop shop. Enjoy your progress because, at every step, there’s something for you to learn. Eventually, you’ll want to be where you are- that’s the pay off!
Today remind yourself: I’ll get there.
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Something is going right.
You could be late, disorganized, upset, running with scissors in both hands, blindfolded, and engulfed in flames, but at least your shoes are tied. A lot is going right in your life. You’re cute, snappy, self-sufficient, and fun. You got the goods and you better recognize!
Today remind yourself: Something is going right.
Your heart is your friend.
You’re strong and resilient, but ya know what needs protection? Your heart. Throwing yourself at love unwisely and with absolute abandon can do a doozy on your heart and your self esteem. Remember, you don’t have to constantly feel head-over-heels-in-love to be a completely worthwhile and whole individual. Approaching love gingerly doesn’t invalidate your feelings and it might...
WatchWoah, I’m so high tech today!
You guys, I made a video of retro pep 11/24/08.
Hope it helps!
Rachel
It's ok to be coy.
You’re intriguing and people want to know more about you, but there’s a limit to what you have to reveal. Sometimes acquaintances, relatives, dates, etc ask really prying questions about uncomfortable topics. “Whatever happened to that fiance of yours?” “How much money did you make, big shot?” “Do you have a plan for your future and, if so, would you tell me about it right now?” Boundaries people,...
