December 2008
Your life keeps getting fuller.
You have a great life. It has its ups and its downs but, more often than not, it treats you right. You wouldn’t want to trade places with anybody because your life works for you. No matter what you’ve encountered, you should to feel proud of the actions you took and choices you made this past year and you have every reason to look forward to the positive things yet to come.
Today...
It's fun to exercise.
Oh man, it’s almost resolution time! With New Years right around the corner, you may notice that there are a shitload of tv ads for ab workouts and weight loss systems. You are unbelievably cute at any size and your New Year’s resolution is your business. Just remember, it feels good to get your heart pumping. Wanna go to the Y with me?
Today remind yourself: It’s fun to...
Think it through.
Ever suddenly get the urge to torture yourself? Think it through before you do. While it’s so sooooo tempting to google stalk your exs or to pop all your zits in one sitting, how will you feel when it’s over? Scarred? You’re fabulous- do something that heightens your awesomeness instead.
Today remind yourself: Think it through.
Get excited.
When there’s good news, I think it’s a good idea to celebrate. I don’t mean you should be imprudent, like blowing all your cash because you’re due to win the lotto, but are you gonna spend all your time waiting for the other shoe to drop? OK, granted, things don’t last forever, but when something is promising and exciting, get excited- even if it’s just for a...
You adapt to changing relationships.
When we’re fortunate enough to reconnect with old friends, it can be very comforting. Things can go unsaid and, often, you can pick up right where you left off. Common experiences unite you, but you needn’t revert to old habits. You don’t have to fit the mold of who you were. You are free to be who you are. Your friends are changing too and you’ll all adapt to one another....
You will not flip out.
I’m no doctor, but I’ve seen enough movies to know that the holidays can cause people to flip out. To avoid the holiday induced flip out, or H.I.F.O. (not just an econ acronym, my lovelies), I recommend deep breaths, solo trips out of the house, and the occasional pillow punching sessions. Don’t let H.I.F.O. rule your life!
Today remind yourself: I will not flip out.
Even on xmas, you're effing awesome.
Well, well, well! Aren’t you just precious in that festive holiday sweater. And you’re so kind and generous with your time. And what a patient, attentive child you are! Dude, you fucking rocked this xmas. Nicely done.
Today remind yourself: Even on xmas, I’m effing awesome.
You embrace contentment.
Baby, I couldn’t care less if you’ve been naughty or nice. I know that you are a good citizen with a heart full of love. You deserve a stressfree, in the moment, happy as a clam day!
Today remind yourself: I embrace contentment.
Make it last.
(Hanukkah pep!)
We are where we are due, in large part, to the sacrifices of people in the past. And the choices we make today influence the lives of future generations. Dwelling is negative, but observing and respecting the actions of those who’ve gone before is positive. We can’t spend every moment obsessing over how our actions will help or hinder our grandkids’ lives, but...
You can only give what you have
I’m on the subway, dressed to the nines with a face full of make up, prepared to belt notes that only dogs can hear, all to impress one person who, very likely, may not like my style. Oh well, I’ll give her what I’ve got. I can’t suddenly become a tiny, blonde tap dancer because someone asks me to. I’ll be me, you be you, it’ll be awesome. Today remind yourself:...
Come clean.
We’ve all got secrets. We’ve all got a past. There are situations where it’s important to protect yourself and not reveal too much. If you feel the need to keep your guard up, you should trust your instincts. But with trusted individuals, each evaluated on a case by case basis, it can feel pretty good to unburden yourself. Does revealing a secret heighten the trust? I...
All things in moderation.
Sometimes things are just so fun, exciting, and wonderful that you never want to stop doing exactly what you’re doing. Sweet Jesus, that’s a great feeling- and I’m a firm “if it feels food, do it” believer. Yet, I suppose it’s important not to overindulge. Give yourself a moment. Enjoy some distance. Then get right back on the train to happytown.
Today remind...
You've made the tough choices.
It has taken strength and courage for you to get to this point. There have definitely been times when you could have made an easy decision that wouldn’t have moved you forward at all. I’m proud of you for putting in the hard work associated with bettering your life day after day. This moment is your reward.
Today remind yourself: I’ve made the tough choices.
Your friends are the best, even when you can't...
Ever wanna just ask your dear friends, “hold still for a moment, lover, while I punch you in the face.” It happens to the best of us and has a lot to do with hormones (yours and others), the weather, how hungry or tired you are, and, of course, whether or not you’re surrounded by dumbasses… jk. Resist the urge to snap, my precious, fragile, little button. Keep your hands to...
You're a busy bee who deserves a cat nap.
When you’re going full force, it can be tricky to gauge how tired you are. Don’t forget, good lookin’, you need your beauty rest! Your work will get done even if you treat yourself to a little r&r.
Today remind yourself: I’m a busy bee who deserves a cat nap.
Keep moving.
They broke your heart into 16 sharp, jaggedy pieces. They’ve hurt you so deeply, you don’t know if you’ll ever fully recover. You feel abandoned and betrayed and, most annoyingly, despite all your anger, you know that, secretly, it wouldn’t take a lot of convincing for you to go back for a second piping hot bowlful of pain. GODDAMNIT!! It’s frustrating to even think...
Say it out loud.
You have goals. There are certain things you’d like to accomplish and certain things you’d like to have. It’s out of your hands whether you ultimately accomplish or possess the things you hope to, but just by saying your goals aloud, you’re closer to them. You solidify the idea, you hold yourself accountable, and you take a big step in the direction of your dreams.
Today...
You're part of something larger.
(early Kwanzaa pep #7)
When we come together in love, we are incredibly strong. Unify with those around you. Create a bond.
Today remind yourself: I’m part of something larger.
It's up to you how you describe yourself.
(early Kwanzaa pep #6)
You may think of yourself one way while others see you another. That’s the way it goes. You cannot control those other people’s thoughts, but you can make positive choices about your own. You’re fun, attractive, able, and kind. See yourself that way.
Today remind yourself: It’s up to me how I describe myself.
You keep up your end of the bargain and you trust...
(early Kwanzaa pep #5) Sometimes I think the teamwork we’re forced to do in class makes us dread working together in real life. It seems like there’s always a slacker for whom the rest of the team has to cover. Not so in real life, NOT SO I say! Teamwork is one of the most rewarding parts of real life. Everything is teamwork and all you have to do is your part. When your grade is not...
You share your toys!
(early Kwanzaa pep #4)
When you thrive, countless people benefit. It happens whether or not you’re aware of it. Open your eyes to the way you share your success. It may help you to understand your positive impact in the world. You are making a positive impact, trust me.
Today remind yourself: I share my toys!
You have a purpose. (Early Kwanzaa pep #3)
I don’t know what it is and it’s probably not important for you to know what it is either. I do know that you HAVE a purpose and, by being alive, present, and committing to the task at hand, you are fulfilling your purpose. Mission accomplished! Happy early Kwanzaa.
Today remind yourself: I have a purpose.
You are faithful. (Early Kwanzaa pep #2)
You have faith in something. You believe in something with your whole heart. What that something is is yours to decide. Whether it’s your family, your community, your cause, or your higher power, you have faith and faith feels good.
Today remind yourself: I am faithful.
Your creativity shines!
You’re a creative person. You see extraordinary potential in ordinary things. Today, be aware of all the ways you make the average fabulous!
Today remind yourself: My creativity shines!
There is nothing wrong with you.
The other day, I listened to someone ask, “What’s wrong with me?” This person expressed concern because they are aging (which comes with the territory when you’re alive) and unmarried. There is nothing wrong with this person and, whatever your hang up is, there is nothing wrong with you! Who says you have to conform to be ok? It ain’t true. Everyone is different and...
