October 2008
Forget the deal breakers.
Deal breakers are traits you’ve decided not to tolerate in a potential love interest. If a person presents this undesirable characteristic, they no longer stand a chance. Maybe for today, rather than dismiss every guy wearing tapered jeans, you could consider them on a case by case basis. I’d hate for you to miss the one great tapered jean wearer because it SEEMS like they’re all...
You're available.
Are you putting up with a total wanker because you’d rather date a loser than be alone? Knock it off. Don’t think of it as being alone. Think of it as being free, independent, open, and available. Rid yourself of dead end dates and make yourself available for the partner you deserve.
Today remind yourself: I’m available.
Give it to you straight.
If there is an issue, you need to know. You want all the facts so that you can make an informed decision about how to proceed. Even if the best answer is to go back to bed and forget what you’ve learned, at least you’ll know what the deal is. Today remind yourself: Give it to me straight.
You work with the mood.
You have a real gift for feeling the vibe and reacting accordingly. It’s like a heightened awareness of how others are feeling. You wouldn’t be caught trying to french braid Betsy the Quiet Girl’s hair when it’s obvious she’s not in the mood to be touched. You’d be surprised how few people notice Betsy’s feelings. Today remind yourself: I work with the...
You're one happy fucking camper.
Talk about a case of the Mondays, sweet merciful crap that was a rough commute! Fuck it. Let’s shake it off. Have I mentioned how fit you’re looking? Here’s some cash, get yourself a present. See! We can turn this around. Do something nice for yourself and let’s get cheery.
Today remind yourself: I’m one happy fucking camper.
Inspiration is around.
You walk around all day with these excellent ideas in your head. Then the time comes to produce a brilliant plan and poof! Nothing. Your mind is a total blank. Ok, no biggie. You’ve got inspiration all around you. Tap into the universe or, if that’s too trippy, think like MacGuyver and look for a paper clip. The ideas will come. Today remind yourself: Inspiration is around.
Feel sparks.
Today your stimulation is an inside job. It is nobody’s responsibility but yours. Seriously, why wait for someone else to do it? Get out there and feel amazing.
Today remind yourself: Feel sparks.
Ignore the little voice.
Jealousy can take many forms like suspicion, insecurity, or even hatred. It’s an unpleasant feeling to be jealous. When the little voice in your head tries to make you jealous of someone or insecure in your relationship, remember that that voice lies! That voice is not you. That voice would love to make you feel like crap and escalate your jealousy to the point that you’re keeping the...
Live and let live.
This morning I heard laughter in the lobby and I automatically rolled my eyes. How dare people be happy before I’ve had coffee?? I was being a hater. You don’t have to be! You can respect other people’s happiness (even when you’re in NO mood for it) and realize that, if you’re open to it, soon enough you’ll be happy too.
Today remind yourself: Live and let...
You will love and be loved!
Romance is a bitch. Good thing bitches are the most exciting! With a somewhat less serious outlook, the normally tedious and often painful process of looking for love can be down right thrilling. Found the one? Yay, exciting! Turns out that one wasn’t the one? How exciting to realize there are stones yet unturned! Bottom line (jeeze, who says bottom line?), where ever you are in this bitch...
You've got style for miles.
It’s not what you wear. It’s how you wear it. It’s not what you do. It’s how you do it. It’s not what you say. It’s how you say it. You’ve got a unique way about you. Nobody else makes a statement quite the way you do!
Today remind yourself: I’ve got style for miles.
It's out of your hands.
You’ve worked hard to ensure that things go your way- what you perceive as the right way. You toiled until the clock ran out and now there’ s nothing left to do but wait for the results. It’s out of your hands and what’s meant to be will be. Be proud of yourself for all your energy and hard work!
Today remind yourself: It’s out of my hands.
It's your call.
Are there things you planned to accomplish today? No- sweet, enjoy your free time! Yes- cool, let’s just knock out the list one task at a time. Take it easy. If it seems overwhelming, prioritize and do the most important thing. If you do one thing on your to-do list, that’s huge! If you blow it off, I support you.
Today remind yourself: It’s my call.
You're in the present.
Last night was sure something, huh? Fun or lame, it’s over. If you spend all morning mentally rehashing it, you could miss something wonderful. Today let’s stay in the present.
Today remind yourself: I’m in the present.
All information is useful if you use it.
I’m in Florida and every other commercial is about retirement. As much as I’d love to retire right now, I’ve got a few more decades to go. So the commercial’s message wasn’t intended for me, but that doesn’t mean I can’t still enjoy them and relate to the premise if I try. When someone is jabbering at you about an issue you couldn’t give a shit about...
Vote for you!
If you won’t vote for yourself, who will? You’re qualified, so have confidence in your abilities. If you’re the one for the job, you’ll get it. If you don’t get it, it wasn’t yours… But you still deserve your own vote of confidence. Today remind yourself: Vote for me!
Consent is crucial.
Rape doesn’t always look the same. People are assaulted by friend and lovers too, not just strangers. If you’re shitfaced or passed out and someone uses your body without your consent, that’s rape too. It’s disgustingly common and it happens to men and women. If you’ve been taken advantage of (and odds are you have been) please realize it’s not your fault. This...
You grow before my very eyes.
Think about your first movie star crush. Got it? Now try and remember how you used to think about your first movie star crush. I’ll bet you a dollar you don’t feel the same heart-fluttering giddiness you used to. Chris O’Donnell and Brad Renfro have become tender memories, not because Batman Forever and The Client are any less awesome than they were, but because you’ve...
Invest in you.
In the midst of this financial crisis, it’s difficult to know where to turn. I just want to remind you that you are a worthwhile person. Your stock never goes down. If you’re looking for a good investment of your time, look in the mirror. Treat yourself like the asset you are. You are not your money. You are golden on your own.
Today remind yourself: Invest in me.
It's a privilege to date you.
I’m a firm believer in the “zero tolerance for standerupperers” policy. I think if they can’t be counted on to call when they say they will, they can’t be trusted and don’t deserve any further communication with you. Some people think this policy is too harsh and give repentant offenders the benefit of the doubt. If that’s you, you have a kind heart and...
You can tone it down.
Getting lucky? Yay! I’m thrilled for you. I’d love to hear all about how happy you are over coffee tomorrow. I’d prefer not to hear the actual act at 8am at a fucking LaQuinta. I have children to entertain at 11, 1 and 3:30 for the love of pete and believe you me I’d rather be in your position. But I’m not, so let me sleep. Does it make it any less fun if you...
It keeps you humble.
Everybody has traits they dislike in themselves but there’s nothing shameful about being unique. So if you commonly refer to yourself as “The Sweatiest Dude in Town” or “Princess Unibrow”, give yourself a goddamn break. You’re the shit! People would kill to be in your shoes. Embrace your quirks because they keep you humble and that humility makes you all the more awesome.
Today remind...
You're vigilant.
You know what’s going on with the people you allow into your inner circle. You’re alert to their needs and vice versa. But what about the people elected to make decisions that directly influence your life? Have you done your homework? Pay good attention and be vigilant so you don’t lose your rights and your needs are met.
Today remind yourself: I’m vigilant.
You have a lot to look forward to.
I can’t predict the future but I am confident that you will have many, many moments of joy. Stay in the moment so you don’t ignore the exciting times. And if this moment sucks, at least it’ll be over in a flash. You deserve happiness and you’ll get it! Keep your eyes peeled and you won’t miss it.
Today remind yourself: I have a lot to look forward to.
They're grrreat!
Some people can be pretty damn annoying. If someone drives you crazy and you’re bound to them by family, work, or living situation, it’s probably a good idea to try to see the best in them. They’re a fixture; you can’t shake them! It’s also much harder to change them than it is to compliment their holiday sweater and walk away. Think good thoughts about obnoxious...
